Change for the better... For some, but is it really for him?

So here goes nothing and hopefully child protective services doesn't come knocking on our door. Yesterday was the breaking point for me; got a call from daycare Joshua (6 month old) is not doing well he is very congested and it seems like he is having trouble breathing. How do I break free from an important meeting to go pick him up?? Your asking where is dad... he is cross country on a secret mission for 2 weeks(the story of his life). I finally make it to pickup Joshua and rush him to the doctor thankfully everything was fine but there will be more sleepless nights ahead of me. After I drop him off at home where grandma (mama) waits for him, I go pick up Kristian. And this is where the nightmare begins......

I get there and he says, "no I want mama to pick me up, I don't like you!" What has gotten into this kid, I litterally had to pick him up and cover his mouth so he wouldn't disturb the other children. As I was putting him in the car he is screaming and kicking the crap out of me and accedentally unbuttoned a couple of buttons off my blouse. There was a lady in the parking lot that said, "how dare you treat your child that way," at that point I was frustartaed and all I wanted to do is crawl into bed and cry like a baby, I felt like a terrible mother and that I would never meet anyones standards as a mother. I calmly told her, "you need to mind your own business and focus on your child."

This is where the question presents itself, this past summer we put Kristian in a Montessori Program that I absolutely love but it seems that everyone else including my wonder daycare lady is completely against. We have seen great change in him and the things that he has learned in the past few months is unbelievable but is it really for him??? I understand he is still young and like every other 3 to 4 year old he is full of energy and all he wants to do is goof off have fun. If you are not familuar with the Montesoori program they are pretty rigorious and follow a very strict curriculm. As John would say its a very starile enviornment. I heard from other parents that are actually pulling their children out of the program because they saw set backs in the way they reacted to the program. That is not our case but I want the best for him and want to make sure that he is successful in everything he does.

The teacher calls on a weekly basis to give updates and the only concerns that she had was that he sits to close to the other children and wants to touch everyone. We are pretty touchy feely but sometimes its just toooooo much! How do you tell your 3.5 yr old that they cannot touch other kids and need to maintain distance?? I have tried everything from telling him they need space to they havegerms and we don't want you to get sick.

I know that there is more to what goes on at the school but everyone tells you he is doing great! If I could just be a fly to observer what really goes on, sometimes I feel like attaching a camera to him to see what really goes on. Please don't understand me he actually loves the school after a few weeks of adjusting he has made a lot of new friends. Is it to soon to judge the program? Am I being pressured into taking him out of the program because so many parents are against the Montessori way or should I continue on with my believe and hope things get better?